vrijdag 16 juni 2017

3.5 is just a Number

It took them 3,5 years to get back to reality. A reality that most of us don't want to live in anymore, because we have something better. Something so good, that it is worth holding on to it.
This is story about relationship that would've been wonderful if the situation was different. Or would it not? Some things belong together, like in the circle of fifths. Just as the saying goes about tango.
Reality or not, the clock keeps ticking and the time goes on. We have to take a flight to the next adventure and a step in another vision of the world. A twist in the plot of life.

Time flies or shatters away from you, that is what you often hear people say. Time is a never-ending gift that we should cherish, while we still have it. A lot can happen in 3,5 seconds, 3,5 months and 3,5 years. Within 3,5 second you can get shot and take 3,5 months to recover of a relationship that felt like it lasted 3,5 years. Time can tell many stories like this one and I am thankful that I am in yours now.

It all starts with Ying, a very talented person. A person that loves to dance, play music, sing and craft. Once in focus, it is hard to get Ying out. Ying have been in many relationships before, but none felt like this one. Ying have been hurt and loved before, but for a 3,5 you can't go back. Ying has a very beautiful whiteness, but is sometimes bothered by the black spot. A beauty or sexy spot in the eyes of others. A dark spot that get covered up in the society or on the mainstream media. On a beautiful night, with clear skies, Ying went out to a park, sat down underneath a tree and play a guitar while watching the stars. What Ying didn't know is that underneath that tree, there was another person.

Yang was a very talented person. Yang loved to dance, play music, solve puzzles and write stories. Once focused and motivated, Yang could get very creative and inspirational. Yang has been in some relationships before, but none felt like this one. It felt like half way there, 3,5 to be more exact. Yang has a very beautiful darkness, but is sometimes bothered by a white scar within. A scar that makes Yang unique in the eyes of others. Yang tries to cover this scar with a smile and optimism, so no-one could notice what is going on. On a beautiful night, with clear skies, Yang went out to a park, sat down underneath a tree, and start writing a poem. What Yang didn't know is that underneath that tree, there was another person.

Ying and Yang met on a very peculiar way, on a dark night with clear skies. While focusing on the pink stars rising to the skies. Their 3,5 joined together to form the 7 stars of Ursa Minor. The lucky number 7. The sound of the guitar Ying was playing inspired Yang to write a beautiful poem. After 3,5 minutes they found themself together searching for the Great Bear. As time flew by they enjoyed every moment and it felt like they have been there for 3,5 years. They knew that after 3.5 hours they have to go back, back to reality.

Are you wondering what Yang wrote within that 3,5 minute? Well here you go:

Dear Farfallina,

You are became very special to me and I will wait till the day that you are mine. Meanwhile we will stay just friends, sharing a secret love and friendship. ;)

You are very kind, talented and motivational person. You thought me a lot about myself and motivated me on the field of music. It is ironic who the butterfly was that flew away. In the end, it is the small things that mostly mattered, right?

As I sit underneath this tree and stare at the sky, I will let time decide what happens next. I hope you enjoyed the me from now, I can't promise I will be the same in the future. As time goes everybody will change eventually.

But now, let's live in the now and enjoy it. Not to worry about the future or past. Enjoy the music and rhythm within us and go with the flow of it.

Yang ;)

Well you reached this far, so again I'm thankful of your time, thank you for being part of my life and thank you for being a motivational person to me. Stay awesome like that.

Dyoxler out!

donderdag 30 maart 2017


So, I have been wondering for quite some times why there are some people out there insecure about how they look or what they can do. I mean, sometimes I am also insecure about things. But why? And what do I need to do against this? Maybe someone gave a TED speech about this already, but I don't know.  Feel free to share your knowledge.

Well this thought and question had been wondering in my head for quite some time now. I think for some people out there too. I think I might have the answer and I wonder if other people also think the same. All you need is the right compliment from the right person. Not that you should wait for this to happen, but I think once you get this... you are ready to beat the world. Just to clarify things I would say it again "All you need is the right compliment from the right person". I mention two important things here: 1. Right compliment and 2. Right person.
The right compliment is exactly the opposite of the negative things that you think about yourself or think that you can't do. The right person is the person that you know that what they said is not just to make you feel good. This person can say somethings like:

"You are really good at that; you should write a story about me"
"I like your smile; it is a beautiful smile that you can light other people’s up with"
"You have a beautiful body; you should show it and trust me it will inspire other people to be like you"
"I like to dance with you even if it is just the basics, because you light up the room"
"You seem freaky, don't be hiding all of it, some people like that shit ;) "
"I like your appearance, you are motivational. I wish I had more colleagues as you"
"You are a very good parent; I look forward on raising my kids just like you"
"Son, always stay in the right path"

Once the right person tells you what you need to hear, you would totally feel confident again and will shine like the diamond that you are. All you needed is that little polish. This “right person” might be hard to find or might have been around you all this time without you noticing. Be sure to let them know what their compliment has done for you on way or the other. Be thankful for all the compliments you got and will get in the future. Conscious or unconscious you will put them in good use.

Some of this compliments could perish away along with the confident feeling in time. The thing is that you are so amazing that the feeling will be bigger, when you get the compliment again from someone else’s.
Yes, I know... there are people out there that has gotten overconfident because of this. Well negative compliments work the same way I think. If you get it from the right person all this overconfidence will be gone.

Again I am not saying that you should remain insecure and wait for the right thing to boost you up. Know that everything happens for a reason, you already have a "no", you could get a "yes", you never fail until you stop trying and that beauty is subjective, what one finds ugly another finds beautiful. You have managed so far...

Because you're awesome like that,

Dyoxler out.

donderdag 9 februari 2017

A game of February

Welcome to the game of February! This game is about getting everything done as fast as possible, because it is the shortest month of the year. This year the game brought a new feature for the die-hard players.
If you leave the house at night, it will be either raining, freezing or snowing. It's a challenge on how to remain as dry or warm possible and how drift your way from point A to B.
You can always choose not to leave the house and still beat the game.

Developers made a bonus level called "Valentine’s day" to celebrate that you are half way there.
Players have to prepare their wallet and start seasoning their food from day one.
If they play the bonus level well enough, they might get this achievement called a Valentine. The perks of this valentine depends on the method the player chooses to play this bonus level. The perks are either a lifetime of happiness, a lifetime of drama or a lifetime defensive shield.
Before the bonus level you can shop and prepare yourself with weapons or booby-traps. You could also dedicate your time on preparing your food by buying special seasonings.
To get the special achievement of this bonus level is simple. You have to protect your food at all cost until dinner time or start hunting on other player’s food. Viola, let The Hunger Games begin.
Because it's a bonus level, you could still get leftovers but not the achievement.
After the bonus level the games continues and now you are probably broke or hungry because of the bonus level. And yea the achievement didn't come with any money and you still have to get everything done as fast as possible.

How am I managing this game so far? I got a fishing rod, a bowl, special beans, a book, an agenda and no money. I am sitting on a fishing spot, watching beautiful fishes swim around. While other players are on a boat trying to get them. I got the special beans in a bowl, hoping they will sprout soon. Figure it out yet? I have a lot of patience and I'm focused what's in my agenda. In the book I have my strategies and recipes written down. Let The Hunger Games begin.

"Oh look! A rare fish is swimming around my bait and …"
Afbeeldingsresultaat voor fishes in the sea quotes

Remember only start playing when you know you will win.



woensdag 8 februari 2017

A Fairy Tale of thoughts

What is the point of being nice, if the world isn’t nice to you?
Just because they say: Be the change you want to see in the world?
Why give something and hope for nothing, while you know you will get something?
Because the say what goes around, will come back around?
The world is a fairy tale and some of us hope to leave the world as a better place.
Striving to raise our children in a better way, so the world can be the future that we wanted.

But it has been for generations like this, and what have changed?
It is all just Fairy tales.
It is all the same and it will remain this way, 
If we always want something better and never be satisfied with what we have.
It is all an illusion to keep us hanging in this world.
A world of Fairy tales,

The optimistic people will know the positive answers to my questions.
But I wonder if they know the positive thought behind this blog.
Well I hope.

The world shows you countless of time the reality.
Those not living in that fairy tale, will strike harder at you.
And what do you do? Get hit and stay down, hope they stop, while you know that they will not?
No, we have been thought to fight back, pay back with what has been given to you.
But at the same time we have hope, we have to be nice and be gentle.
It doesn't seem that it fits. Something is not right in this Fairy tale.
Even in a boxing fight, it is the one that strikes hard and has the most experience wins.
And not the one that counters with soft touches and has hopes to win the fight.

I'm lost...
We are lost...
I'm lost between two decisions, like all of us are.
A one and a zero, a gamble between choices.
A hope for the best choice.
And not knowing what tomorrow will bring…
To set goals, to fight with everything in the ring.
To let go or to fight and get back up.

What is the point of all this? Tales that we have been told to hang on to life?
No wonder some of us quits. It's not real, its contradicting and confusing us.
The balance seems real; one cannot exist without the other.
A fantasy fighting reality.

They say never give up, but I gave up on this statement to grow up.
Moving forward by eating the elephant one bite at a time.
Accepted the fact that faster is not always the way.
As there are more ways that leads to Rome.
Choice is the steering wheel on that road.
But accepting what you already accepted can be difficult, you know?

One needs what it needs in the right moment that its needed,
Nothing more and nothing less.
Everything is just too much for One and nothing is too less for One, that is not enough.
So one just need the right amount that is needed, nothing more nothing less.

How can I put this simple?
While finding a simple way of writing something difficult,
Is simply difficult enough,
So I gave up, you know?
I give up on this Fairy tale that I wrote once.